Exista doua feluri de suferinta
First there is the suffering in blindness, the one in which we suffer with our eyes closed, without consciousness, in which we blame everyone and everything for what happens to us, in which we ask ourselves why exactly this is happening to us, in which we struggle with the difficulties we go through, in which we make desperate attempts to control events and others. In this suffering, escape into addictions such as alcohol, tobacco, drugs, sex, gambling, etc. is very common, as internal tension management mechanisms. We don’t learn anything from this suffering and what we often do is unconsciously place it on the shoulders of family, friends, co-workers, out of the desire to escape as quickly as possible and free ourselves.And there is also the second way of suffering, the one in which we stand in suffering with our eyes wide open, with full awareness, in which we take responsibility for what happens to us, we ask ourselves what lessons are there for us, we accept the difficulties which we go through and understand the fact that we cannot control the events and people that cause us suffering. It is a suffering from which we do not seek to escape, but to feel it to the end and in the process of this feeling melt into new forms, rigidities, expectations, beliefs, defense mechanisms, personality structures that strengthen us or cause us this suffering. From this suffering we learn many things about ourselves, about the world, it is a suffering that melts in the light of consciousness and does not move further.
Most people experience suffering on the first level. As the level of consciousness increases, we begin to experience the second level as well and, most often, to travel between the two. At a higher level of emotional and spiritual development, we manage to stay, predominantly, in the second level.
Psychotherapy helps us to pass and stay as much as possible in the second level, assisting us to obtain clarity, capacity for self-observation, responsibility and liability. I am waiting for you in the psychotherapy office, to explore together how our suffering is actually a great teacher!